Pros & Cons of Having the Same Birthday as Your Spouse

Pros & Cons of Having the Same Birthday as Your Spouse

This year we are celebrating our 30th birthday! We refer to it as our birthday because we have the same birthday. It generally throws people for a loop when they find out. Even more so when the realize we were also born in the same year. However, the possibility of your spouse having the same birthday is really the same as meeting anyone with the same birthday as you and is fairly common. Statistically speaking, there is a .27% chance of any to people having the same birthday.

It is however such a rarity that we had trouble finding another couple with the same birthday for us to get their opinion on it. We have met couples that have birthdays that are close to one another but not the same day. In fact the most we could find was the Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta-Jones have the same birthday(September 25th). Recently, Michael Douglas was on LIVE with Kelly and Ryan and he joked about how it was fun at first to have the same birthday but now she is over it.

We may not always like having the same birthday but for now we are still enjoying it. For us it has always been a cute anecdote and although it is a fun piece of information to share it has pros and cons.


1. No Forgotten Birthdays.

Given we have the same birthday, forgetting each other’s big day is kind of impossible. It is kind of like a free insurance policy(as if anyone could forget their spouses birthday) to guarantee a happy birthday.

2. We Celebrate Together.

If your birthday falls midweek and you celebrated over the weekend the actual day can feel lonely. Most of the fun of sharing a birthday is getting to celebrate together. It doesn’t matter how we celebrate, we will have fun together no matter what.

3. Shared Gifts

Occasionally we buy each other something but we have mostly opted for a shared gift. For us this usually means something for the house or an experience to have together. One year for Christmas we bought Hamilton tickets, another year we went to Disneyland(the year they used a “free on your birthday” promotion), and we spent our 5th wedding anniversary in Europe. It really works out for us. This year for our birthday we plan on dropping the kids with there grandparents and going out to dinner this year.

4. Same Signs

According to a few star sign websites we visited Aries are very compatible with each other. This was new information for us but wasn’t surprising. We got a long well before we even started dating and get along really well with other Aries too.

5. Go Big or Go Home

We share the day together so we can decided if we want to celebrate with a big blow out or chill on the couch emptying our DVR. Our last big birthday celebration was for our 21st and since birthdays aren’t that big of a deal we are usually celebrating with just each other, the kids, and some family.


1. The Group Text

Excuse me, the group fucking text. Group texts can be great and serve a purpose but for us the group text on our birthday gets a big fat eye roll. Why you ask, well if you knew two people with the same birthday that weren’t a couple would they get a group text? Sure you may already have a strong thread with us in a group text but this is different. Do we text you “happy birthday” in the group? NOPE. We give a bit of a free pass for some but those who know us best would never dare.

2. No Surprise Parties

We can’t necessarily throw a party of any kind for the other. It is a bit challenging to throw a party for your spouse and not having it look like you are throwing a party for yourself. It would honestly be too difficult for either of us to pull this one off.

3. Compromising

We don’t always agree on everything and our birthday is no exception. If one of us wants to go out and the other wants to stay in we have to compromise. However sometimes that is a simple as dessert but we both want to make sure the other is having the best day so we are happy to bend the knee.

4. Guilt

Now this could happen if our birthdays were a day apart or 100 but of us is going to experience a little guilt and sadness. If one of us gets an invite from friends to celebrate and the other doesn’t it can be crushing on both sides. If one of us is leaving the other behind it can be challenging because we do want the other to celebrate and be happy but going out could mean not having as much fun because we are worried about the other.

We love that we have the same birthday. Although it comes with good and bad of sharing the day we have been loving it!

Famous People We Share A Birthday With:

  1. Buster Posey(SF Giants Catcher)
  2. Mariah Carey
  3. Quentin Tarantino
  4. Nathan Fillion
  5. Jesse J
  6. Michael York
  7. Fergie
  8. Anne Ramsey
  9. Pauley Perrette
  10. Brenda Song